Lucky in game but unlucky in love

American scientists have studied this at the University of Michigan in the United States and it turns out that as a single person is a larger risk taker when it comes gambling. This is the surprising conclusion of a study involving volunteers.

Psychologist Joshua Ackerman did a number of experiments under single heterosexual volunteers to see if there is a link between the expected success in love and taking risky financial decisions and it turned out there is. The question is of course how Ackerman has investigated this. The first group of volunteers got some pictures showing men and women between 18 and 35 years who were supposedly living in the area.

Some participants got to see more men, others more women. After this, the researchers asked how many women and men they had seen. A smaller chance, at a larger prize. Ackerman goes back to evolutionary principles whereby a man is prepared to take greater risks if the chance of finding a partner is smaller.

The second experiment was reading a newspaper article by the volunteers about the demographic developments in their region. Afterwards, the participants received various packages of shares and they had to choose where they would like to invest. Here too, the outcome was surprising: Participants who had read in the newspaper article that fewer potential partners were born in their region, opted for the riskier shares.

More risky choices can cause you to lose everything, but it can also cause you to rise above the competition in, for example, prosperity and status. When the chance of finding a partner is smaller, then you are, driven by primal instincts, prepared to take more risks. To this day, he still complains about being overweight. This guy is handsome and amazing at any weight. The issue is the emotional weight we bring to the relational table with us.

Being unhappy in your own unhealthiness and destructive patterns is bad enough. If thinking about your relational goals gives you anxiety, you need to simplify. Because I lacked a sense of enoughness, my emotional pacifier was to detail-orient my goals to such an extent, no one was ever good enough.

The most inconsequential things would turn me off and red flags would induce ovulation. Today, I just want three things: 1 to be happy 2 to be around people who contribute to my growth and happiness 3 get rid of the anchors that weigh me down from my happiness and peace.

Who the hell wants to electively embark on a contradictory, complicated goal? It really is that simple. I no longer base my worth on someone handing me scissors. What am I supposed to do with scissors? Put them in my pocket and risk further injury? Scissors are meant to cut — not to put in your pocket so you have a license to feel sorry for yourself or throwback in an attempt to cause pain. You were trying to connect with another human. There was no connection. There is a whole other post I want to write on this but looking back, what really messed up my luck in love was feeling like I had to lead with something.

Same pig, different lipstick. These were all just different filters. And just like when you post a photo on Instagram, the goal is to lead with the photo, not the filter. Some people lead with the filters and then become dependent on them to feel like their photo is even post-able.

Bottom line: The key to turning your relational luck around is honesty. Lead with honesty, always. Love you sister. Thank you for being you! Happy St. Pattys day to you and the whole tribe. I love your insightful posts and the humility you bring to your writing. Thank you Natasha! And thank you for being a part of this tribe. You are so loved and appreciated. Love the positivity Natasha. Thank you and may the luck of the Irish and all the other lucks be with you and all of us!

This post needs to be printed out, re-read, absorbed, learned, and loved many, many times over. Thank you for bringing both your brain and your heart into each point! Love it!! Thank you so much! All my love to you sister.

Hello Natasha. Great words of wisdom. I will be reading this again. I love the portion about connecting and not auditioning. It makes sense. I am guilty of auditioning but I know I also connected. He did not. Thank you and you look gorgeous. I hope you had a nice St. Thank you my beautiful soul sister! I feel the same way about you and your beautiful heart, soul, and blog. Love you sister!

Thank you for being you. I love your posts. You always give me a reality check when I need it.